While speaking with news.com.au, she explained that the “most stupid” way many men end up being exposed is by leaving location tracking on their phones or pulling out noticeable amounts of cash from shared bank accounts using the ATM at the brothel.
Ms DeNoire also pointed out that men sometimes dig themselves in deeper. One of the most obvious slip-ups? Transferring money directly from a joint account to a sex worker’s personal account — and yes, she says there are “bonus points” for that kind of move.
“But to be fair, I always say that there are also clients who are extremely good at covering their tracks. They’ll come during their lunch break from work, leave their phone at the office just in case — especially if they have shared location on or tracking history on, which would look suspicious if he would suddenly turned it off — and then just say they had an important client meeting.”
According to Ms DeNoire, some confrontations don’t just happen at home — they’ve gone down right inside the brothel. In many cases, the situation unfolds with the wife or girlfriend walking in, convinced her partner is there. She’ll demand to see him, and if he’s found, the two usually step outside to argue in private.
However, one particular case stood out. A woman had found a brothel ticket tucked away in her fiancé’s pocket. Instead of confronting him immediately, she came straight to the venue and insisted on seeing the CCTV footage for proof.
“I explained that to them, but the fiancee took it as me covering for him and she said there would be no wedding.”
“I tried to suggest that they talk it through, that maybe he really wasn’t here but it didn’t help. I don’t think the wedding ever happened.”
“He’s shocked and immediately starts apologising, claiming he didn’t do anything, that his friends dragged him there, that he was just waiting at the bar, or that he only came for a drink and this was the only place still open,” she said, describing the range of excuses men offer once they’re caught.
“But once, I saw a guy pull a really bold move. His partner found out, waited for him to confront him, and when she did, he flipped the whole situation and got mad at her for stalking him and following him around like some jealous psycho. That was really something else.”
“Some men are in happy marriages — they love their wives but the sex is gone. They don’t want to pressure their partner into doing something she doesn’t want to do, but they also don’t want to get involved in an affair as they see that as something more emotionally risky than visiting a professional,” she said, offering insight into how some men justify their decisions.
She added that some clients are looking to explore fantasies they don’t feel safe bringing up at home. For example, things like BDSM might feel too uncomfortable or even shameful to mention to a partner. Others treat the visit like a form of emotional release — a place to talk, be heard, and escape their stress for a little while.
“So the question of whether it’s cheating, I always answer: I don’t know. I have no idea what goes on behind closed doors in their relationship, what kind of boundaries or agreements they have.”
“I don’t want to automatically assume that every man with a wedding ring is cheating and a jerk because some couples do have open relationships and are perfectly happy that way.”
